Wives and racing... the saga cont.

[cardzilla]

Hi, all.  I wanted to take the time to post about my situation in hopes that I can help anyone else out there who comes across the same thing in their lives.
To reset, I returned to roadracing in '04 after 10 years, went back expert and managed to win a race.  I'd planned to do a full season in '05.  Well the wife flipped and eventually made it impossible for me to ride.  I decided that my marriage was much more important and that we would just work things out, so I quit just before Daytona this year and sold a good portion of my stuff, including one fast 600rr.
Fast Forward to one month ago and it turns out she was having an affair!  Now having an affair is bad enough, but forcing me to quit racing 'for the sake of our marriage' along with it qualifies as dastardly.  Now I'm divorced, moving out of a beautiful home and without a racebike.  I could get into specifics but it'd be too long and you wouldn't believe it anyway... soap opera writers couldn't dream this stuff up on Abscinth.
So, to any of you who may have a similar situation arise keep this in mind.  I understand people are all different, but you need to make the decision for yourself and no one else.  I trusted my wife 100%, it's one of the reasons I married her, and she betrayed me in every aspect.  I'm now looking for a new house and a racebike for next year. *Lesson learned*

[Jeff]

I dunno man... The way that my wife allows me to pour through money in racing, maybe she's hiding something from me!  ;D ;D

(sorry dude...  your situation sucks, and I wouldn't wish it on most people)

[tigerblade]

What an evil biatch!  Hope she gets a nasty pox...

[smoke]

Sorry to see you go through this type of crap.  I agree with what you said.  Thats was a nice yellow ride you had.  Get back to racing soon.

[kz2zx]

I'm now looking for a new house and a racebike for next year. *Lesson learned*

Man, I will never understand why YOU have to move out of the house.  

Divorce law is something beyond me.  I pray I never get an education

[cardzilla]

Let me clarify a couple of things.  We are BOTH moving out.  We have to sell the house because neither of us can buy the other's share of the equity out.
Second, on divorce law, here's a little kicker that I didn't know before I got married.  In the state of Florida, and most others, there's what's called 'no-fault' divorce.  Simply put if you come home, find your wife doing something unmentionable with a stranger... she still is entitled to half the assets.  I was always under the nieve impression that if you're at fault, you get zippo on the mutual assets and just get to keep what is yours.  Had I known that wasn't the case I wouldn't have gotten married without a prenup.
Thirdly, I'm getting everything I want in the divorce because I hold a few trump cards.  Since kids might read this I won't get into it in this forum, but think worse than soap opera.  I basically wrote the agreement myself, had my buddy (who is a lawyer) ok it and she signed it, no questions asked.  Since I am way too old school in the chivalry department I still gave her at least half of everything and let her keep the nice SUV (only she drove it anyway).  We couldn't afford 2 nice cars so I bought her that one and kept my POS '97 s-10.  Just glad to be done.  I'm actually excited about racing and eventually finding a girl that is into racing also.

Jeff-->  I wouldn't worry, buddy.  You know how every so often a motor comes along that is just way out of line with average HP and we call it a 'ringer'... well you got the 'ringer' wife  ;D

[Xian_13]

Ohh Boy can I relate...

I am sorry to hear that things work out in the manner they did... I can't feel bad about your divorce, cuz you are going to be some much better off this way.

I had a Soap Opera myself...
I was 21, Married and I wanted to race...
I was all of 2 inches away from getting on the track, when my life turned upside down.

9 Years later, I finally started racing.
I never regret my choices...
But i can't help woundering what if...

So you missed 05, but nothing is stopping you for 06 and beyond ;D Sounds like a good deal to me!

XIII

[K3 Chris Onwiler]

Hey, those tire warmers you sold me totally kick ass!  They are the nicest ones I've ever had!  Tell the ex thanks from me!
Yeah, that was really low.  Hopefully, you'll take it with the humor it was intended to carry.... :-[
Anyhow, it seems your problem has solved itself.  Good for you, and watch out world!  Just let me share one of the lessons I've learned on my way to being old.  Don't try to make up for lost time.  Done is done.  When you get on the track, last year, last weekend, even last session doesn't matter.  All that matters is you, the bike, and how far ahead your eyes can see.  A very wise friend told me that at exactly the right moment, and it turned me completely around, virtually killing all my demons in one shot.  Don't let your past dictate your future.  It will only screw you up.

[K3 Chris Onwiler]

Oh, and I love the Rossi quote under your avatar!  He pretty much summed it all up there, didn't he? :o

[Jeff]

So you missed 05, but nothing is stopping you for 06 and beyond ;D Sounds like a good deal to me!

No kidding...  If you hadn't found out, you wouldn't have had sunlight for 06 (or gasp! maybe a late 05 race)...

and yeah, my wife is great... but she takes it out on me in large bites from time to time...  lol... (don't they all)

[cardzilla]

Chris, you're welcome on the warmers... I'll be getting PDs again when the time comes.  Luckily, I was smart enough to not sell any gear.

[K3 Chris Onwiler]

Yeah, note to other board members.  When Larry says "Like New," he means it!  That was a very good deal.  For the first time in my life, my warmers don't look like I stole them from a homeless person....

Hey, read my advice again Larry.  It's good stuff, and applies heavily to your situation on many levels.  Good luck, bro!