Married? I need help. Quick....

[am_#65_john_deere]

if she doesn't understand now,

what will she be like after the wedding?????????

there is something wrong if things change after the wedding. :o :o :o

anyway,
give me her number,,,,,,,but be sure to send me a pic too,,,,,,,,,,,,,it's nice to see who i'm talking to. ;D ;D ;D

[Baltobuell]

There are only 3 things people fight about. This goes from wars to marrages. Sex, Money, and Power. Seems to me she has control of 2 for sure and is working on the money. Have you thought this MAJOR LIFE ALTERING DECISION THAT DEFINES WHETHER YOUR LIFE WILL BE HAPPY all the way through?

[cornercamping]

There are only 3 things people fight about. This goes from wars to marrages. Sex, Money, and Power. Seems to me she has control of 2 for sure and is working on the money. Have you thought this MAJOR LIFE ALTERING DECISION THAT DEFINES WHETHER YOUR LIFE WILL BE HAPPY all the way through?

Bah.. i'm the boss.  She's just scared that I'll get hurt and not make the wedding, or show up all screwed up with broken parts. She only has control of the sex part  ;) ;D

[smoke]

CC

Here's the real deal... i went through the same thing when I got hitched but mine was volleyball.

Every women, girl has a dream/ vision of what thier weding day will be like .  They want a perefect day.  its the day they have been thinking about/dreaming of since they were little.  Its her day!

I did not play that month and I just stoped playing last year to take up racing.  So just suck it up and let her have her way as its her day.

Mel

[dylanfan53]

I don't understand guys that need permission to do something.  I've worked with some guys that might was well be on a leash.
If you want that kind of relationship, then you must not mind being told that you can't race.  So do what she says, keep your piehole shut and live in peace.
If you can't take being told you can't race, then you won't like her telling you everything else you can't do in life. So run away fast. :o
IMHO and all that.

[Baltobuell]

 Women always have control of the sex, that's a given. :'( That's why men work so hard for money. ;D
  Congradulations and best of luck. I hope you don't  catch yourself in a couple of years saying, New Harley, Dinette set, Harley, Dinette set. ;D

 You're getting married so expect to be ribbed a little

[dylanfan53]

Women always have control of the sex, that's a given. :'( That's why men work so hard for money. ;D

No one has control of anything if the other person doesn't care that much about it.  First rule of negotiation; Care, but not too much...

You're getting married so expect to be ribbed a little

By his wife to be or us? :)

[K3 Chris Onwiler]

or ones who are cool wives who let their husbands spend a lot of money on on hobby which can cause serious injury or death while her bathroom remodeling project is put on hold.[/i]

Man!  That's just too funny.  I had pipe problems last summer, and wound up hacking out the walls to fix them.  When water starts shooting out, you pretty much have to drop everything else and deal with it.  This was of course at the time when I had 4 race weekends in a row, a blown motor, ect, ect, ect.  Naturally, it was all the wife's fault because she was remodeling the bathroom by herself and found wet plaster under the wallpaper she was stripping, thus leading her to the leak, thus getting ME involved!  The upstairs bathroom is STILL hacked up!  See, I've managed to convince the wife that I build bikes, she remodels the house.  These are both hobbies that we enjoy.  She does hers, I do mine, we're both happy.  Kinda slick, really! ;D

[roadracer797]

Ok my 2 cents
You can't go through life waiting for something bad to happen and not do anything because if it never happens you are still dead and didn't have fun. You have to live life now not for what is in the future which none of us can see, if the future holds bad things then that was meant to be for God had it planned that way. Marriage is a give and take relationship and it sounds right now she is not giving at all and you have to make her realize that this just sets the stage for problems in the future, but hey remmeber we can't see into the future so do what is right now and hope for the best because we only live once so enjoy everyday like it's the last. Hope this has helped and if not hope she comes around after and doesn't stop you from living the life you enjoy, with her in it.
Craig  

[cornercamping]

Every women, girl has a dream/ vision of what thier weding day will be like . ÊThey want a perefect day. Êits the day they have been thinking about/dreaming of since they were little. ÊIts her day!

That's more or less what it is right there.   So, I've decided just to let it go, and let her have her way for now.  I"ll be at the first race after I get back from the honeymoon.  ;) ;D

[smoke]

I don't understand guys that need permission to do something.  I've worked with some guys that might was well be on a leash.
If you want that kind of relationship, then you must not mind being told that you can't race.  So do what she says, keep your piehole shut and live in peace.
If you can't take being told you can't race, then you won't like her telling you everything else you can't do in life. So run away fast. :o
IMHO and all that.

I take it you are not married?  Well I have been for 4 years. We have our good days and bad but u get through them. And anyone will tell u I do what I want when I want.  What u do not understand is the word compromise.  A marrige is about give and take, respecting the other person. Its called considering the other persons feelings, thoughts, and emotions.

I ask to consider her plans, and thoughts. If she says no I say ok I still am going and I say way I will do what I want. But sometimes I do the stuff se wants to do.

[smoke]

Women always have control of the sex, that's a given. :'( That's why men work so hard for money. ;D
  Congradulations and best of luck. I hope you don't  catch yourself in a couple of years saying, New Harley, Dinette set, Harley, Dinette set. ;D

 You're getting married so expect to be ribbed a little

 
Man I was there!!!!!!  It was new living room set or new/used race bike.  She spent her money on new living room stuff.  I picked up the 02 600 with my money.