Wife demands i quit

[Kal]

And that also might be why Mike has sex with his hand at night! Wait I forgot the smiley   

[GSXR RACER MIKE]

And that also might be why Mike has sex with his hand at night! Wait I forgot the smiley   

Only while looking at that picture of you wearing rain boots while doing something behind that sheep! 

With present day divorce rates being apx. 2 out of every 3 marriages today, there's defenitely a problem. That's like saying you have a 6 shot revolver, load 4 of the chambers randomly and close the gun, spin it, then hold it to your head and pull the trigger. The chances of getting 1 of the 2 empty chambers is the same as a marriage lasting today. Kinda puts it in a different perspective.

I'm not slamming on women in this thread, I'm merely pointing out some things that are not general knowledge to many men. The extent that emotions effect most women's lives is far greater than I think most guys realize, those emotions are what cause attraction. Eliminate the emotional attraction aspect of a male/female relationship and you will most likely see that relationship end or deteriorate considerably. I'm certainly not saying this is some negative aspect of women, it's purely part of many women's programming and a simple fact of how they operate. Knowledge of this and some other things can be a tremendous aspect in not only developing attraction, but maintaining it as well. Loss of attraction is by far the #1 thing that results in divorce.

[Kal]

HOW DID YOU GET THAT PICTURE OF ME IN RAIN BOOTS!! 

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Mssr. SlowDoc, I'd also like to know if she has a reason why.

Mike, I don't think yer slamming on women, but you're painting a pretty one sided picture of divorce. (which is based a lot on personal experience with your own friends, which I understand) I'm curious what the male side of the coin is since I refuse to believe that most divorces are the women's fault. Like if many women are attracted to the "bad boy", why are many men attracted to bat-shit crazy girls? I'm sorry you had so many friends have wives that cheated.

[GSXR RACER MIKE]

I didn't intend my responses to sound like women are the cause for divorce, I put blame very strongly on the inaccurate influences of the media in it's many forms on the public, both men and women. The reason I responded like I did is because in this particular case she is the one demanding change, she apparently has something going on personally for her to feel this way, I merely explained some things that many men may be oblivious to.

Men definitely can initiate divorces, but in general our decisions are not nearly as driven by emotions as compared to those of women. I'm certainly not saying that either way is better, it's just different ways of approaching things. Guys will generally divorce for different reasons than women, for example a guys loss of attraction for a woman will often times be at more of a physical level, where as a women's loss of attraction for a guy is more often at an emotion level. Guys do indeed feel emotional attraction to women as well, but not nearly like many women do.

[Jeff]

and it never dawned on anyone that perhaps his wife looked at their medical and life insurance plans and realized they could be in a bad situation?  Or one of a million other reasons?

I'd really wait to get a bit more information before dispensing any advice (other than "get more information").

Just my $.02

[racer911]

he still hasn't answered everybody's first question, which was "why?"

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Jeff - there's two distinctly different conversations going on... one is a good way to pass the time till we get more information. I'm curious as to why too.

Mike - 'sall good. The attraction bit makes sense, and agree about different motivations. I was just curious to hear you turn it around.

[Jwhite316]

i know another guy who was in your predicament. He listened to his wife. I dont think racing is worth losing the woman you love. We have to understand what a crazy sport we are in. Everyone has had at least one very serious injury. Most wives don't (not all) understand why we do it. I think the best way to go about it is tell your wife reasons why you love racing hopefully she'll understand.

[dylanfan53]

and it never dawned on anyone that perhaps his wife looked at their medical and life insurance plans and realized they could be in a bad situation?  Or one of a million other reasons?

You're right, of course.  By him using the word "demand" I was assuming this was another one of those wife vs. husband control issues.  I like balance.

[Court Jester]

Anyone else here have a significant other who demands they quit riding........dont quite know how to handle it.....so after 15 years of marraige my answer is .....yes dear.

tell her that when she quits doing what she enjoys, then you will quit. she's your wife, not your mother. and if she's going to drop you because of racing then you have much bigger problems than racing anyway.
My other half told me no more bikes after my second one. so i got 5 more and just never told her till after the fact. and the 2 days of silence you get from things like that is well worth it too.

[Woofentino Pugrossi]

and the 2 days of silence you get from things like that is well worth it too.