So, the fiance calls me today. "hey, just checking to see when you usually get off of work on fridays, I need to book plane tickets for regina's wedding" Of course I ask "when is her wedding?" Of course she's told me this a couple times before. "July 7th" she says :kicknuts:
Road America Weekend :wah:
I said "oh shit"
"what?"
"thats road america weekend"
"are you signed up for that one already"
"no"
"are you going to"
"well I don't know now"
"what are you going to do"
"well I know what you want me to do, and you'll be pissed if I do what I want to do" (remember I've only met this girl thats getting married once or twice)
"well I can't say that you have to go if you want to go race"
"yeah but you'll be pissed off"
"no, we'll talk about it when you get home"
now, what do I do :err:
Call Road America and see if they could have the wedding there.
Buy a dozen roses on the way home and pray?
Tell her you forgot that you preregistered and can't get you money back.
APP great start lousy finish- 2 outa 3 aint bad,tho :thumb:
You reason with her:
"Hon, I know you want me to go to the wedding, but you know how important Road A is to me. Can we compromise and plan a weekend together another time? I'd rather spend quality time with you than eat bad wedding food and dance to silly songs."
She will either bitch slap you, (https://www.ccsforum.com/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.clicksmilies.com%2Fs1106%2Faktion%2Faction-smiley-070.gif&hash=91602f1f0a2c71cdc6522a6929ffb8d8313199d0) or be reasonable. (https://www.ccsforum.com/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.clicksmilies.com%2Fs1106%2Faktion%2Faction-smiley-083.gif&hash=cda6a93270970e68d08907d6965ca39462256fdc)
:biggrin:
hopefully resonable will be her answer :thumb:
This is a test. The outcome will determine which one of you makes your decisions forever. Time to learn Roosevelt Diplomacy....
Either way you're screwed. Good luck! :biggrin:
just go race....give in now...it'll only get worse when your married.
Quote from: K3 Chris Onwiler on February 08, 2007, 08:36:55 PM
This is a test. The outcome will determine which one of you makes your decisions forever. Time to learn Roosevelt Diplomacy....
How true...
I say race, but pick up something shinny & expensive on the way home, it eases the blow.
Ooh g/f advice on a forum!
The answer is simple. You obviously have sponsors. They pay you to attend and race. It's a promise you've already made so you have to live up to your obligations as a responsible racer. You gave your word.
And if she doesn't understand that, well...you're not married are you? Dump her for a while and let her think about it.
One more thing. Don't buy her anything (except maybe flowers) to try to even the score. In racing you'll always be behind if you start keeping score. If you want to do something nice, buy her something special when there's no possible chance that it can be linked to anything just to show that you appreciate her putting up with you.
Legal disclaimer: Previous results are no indication of future returns and may result in unintended consequences. (And I'm generally considered a failure at understanding women...ask me if I care.) :rollseyes:
:lmao: :lmao: :lmao:
I hate weddings... Getting dressed up, putting on the fake smile, making nice with relatives that you wish weren't, umm, relatives.... :blahblah: :blahblah: It's not even worth it for the free beer.
Racing though... :biggrin:
Then again, that's just me.
Dawn :thumb:
Quote from: K3 Chris Onwiler on February 08, 2007, 08:36:55 PM
This is a test. The outcome will determine which one of you makes your decisions forever. Time to learn Roosevelt Diplomacy....
what he said. times two.
she's your g/f, not your mom. she'll get over it and "should" be happy to see you happy (racing)
Quote from: dylanfan53 on February 08, 2007, 09:44:53 PM
If you want to do something nice, buy her something special when there's no possible chance that it can be linked to anything just to show that you appreciate her putting up with you.
That is some
OUTSTANDING advice! I do this kind of thing regularly.
Example: I come home with flowers. She's thrilled beyond belief, and says, "What's the occasion?" I reply, "Well, the homeless dude was just standing there with the bucket full of flowers, and I thought about how you always do nice things for me, so I bought some." She replies, "Well, I'm glad to hear that homeless people make you think of me!" Then she grabs me by the shirt, dragges me into the.... um, GOTTA GO!
K3 +1 on the flowers- I never had such a regular relationship with a florist until i got into this hobby, shinny-sp works better but cuts down too drastically on needed ? improvements -
See you all at Road America :cheers:
Quote from: Jason748 on February 08, 2007, 09:24:20 PM
How true...
I say race, but pick up something shinny & expensive on the way home, it eases the blow.
That's great advice.
I like things made of polished aluminum.
So, enter the races, buy some cool stuff. If she's unhappy, you can enjoy the stuff. :biggrin:
Quote from: dylanfan53 on February 08, 2007, 09:44:53 PM
One more thing. Don't buy her anything (except maybe flowers) to try to even the score. In racing you'll always be behind if you start keeping score. If you want to do something nice, buy her something special when there's no possible chance that it can be linked to anything just to show that you appreciate her putting up with you.
+1 - and that should go for anybody. I should really do this more often since I can be a bit of a pill of a girlfriend. Come up with something a little more imaginative than flowers from time to time though. Flowers are nice, and even I and my dark and twisty innards have a melty spot for getting flowers, but put some thought into it. Not shiny expensive things, thoughtful things.
Then again, I want to start punching people when I hear diamond industry ads that try equating love with their overpriced hunks of pretty rocks. Whatever. I will *never* understand this, so your mileage may vary.
Quote from: truckstop on February 09, 2007, 10:34:33 AM
Then again, I want to start punching people when I hear diamond industry ads that try equating love with their overpriced hunks of pretty rocks. Whatever. I will *never* understand this, so your mileage may vary.
Tell me about it. I've never had Rog buy me a diamond, and my pearls belonged to me mum. However, you and I are not 'normal' on this account, so I don't know how valuable our advice would be on that end.
Oh, and boys? If you want to buy me something shiny, make sure it has 2 wheels. :biggrin:
Quote from: Super Dave on February 09, 2007, 08:54:53 AM
That's great advice.
I like things made of polished aluminum.
So, enter the races, buy some cool stuff. If she's unhappy, you can enjoy the stuff. :biggrin:
Exactly....I didn't say it was for her :biggrin:. I was thinking, rear sets, some nice ohlins, some BST's, maby a Ti full system, etc.... it eases the blow when she leaves you!
:lmao: :lmao: :lmao:
Quote from: truckstop on February 09, 2007, 10:34:33 AM
Then again, I want to start punching people when I hear diamond industry ads that try equating love with their overpriced hunks of pretty rocks. Whatever. I will *never* understand this, so your mileage may vary.
That makes me INSANE, and I understand it all too well. The diamond industry plays us like fools, tuging our emotions and guilt, making us feel that if we don't blow thousands on rocks for our women, we're useless non-providers.
They tell the young men that 2 months salary is the right money to spend on an engagement ring! If I had that money to toss, She'd be getting a $200 diamond in the glove box of a British Racing Green used Miata! In fact, at that point I could forget the rock, and Laura's eyes would still have the hungry gleam that the diamond commercial girls always get....
Man, I refer to Laura's diamond as "The BB." It's humiliatingly small and foggy. I've tried to upgrade that sucker several times, but she adamently refuses. She says she loves that rock because she knows I could hardly afford it at the time, and just couldn't WAIT to marry her.
Quote from: K3 Chris Onwiler on February 09, 2007, 11:05:05 AMMan, I refer to Laura's diamond as "The BB." It's humiliatingly small and foggy. I've tried to upgrade that sucker several times, but she adamently refuses. She says she loves that rock because she knows I could hardly afford it at the time, and just couldn't WAIT to marry her.
That story makes me melty too. Awesomeness.
For Christmas this year, a friend's wife was all excited that she got diamonds. We gave each other a slot car set that takes up the entire dining room floor. (It'll get moved to the basement eventually, you know we didn't have much furniture in there anyway) She didn't get it.
I dunno, the time we spend together laughing and smashing up plastic Ferrari's and Porsche's (I play slot cars more like demo derby than racing - the Ferrari is already missing a headlight, and the rear axle is tweaked, the Porch is covered in red scratches) is way, way more valuable to me than shiny rocks.
That's a bad example, I wish I had a less "dude hobby" oriented story...
Anyway, yeah, the diamond industry turns a lot of people into suckers, and it's kind of horrifying and sad... and yeah Alexa, women who read motorbike racing message boards probably aren't the best gauge for the rest of our gender. I still say we're the "normal" ones though. :thumb:
errr... and appologies for the thread hijack.
Quote from: spyderchick on February 09, 2007, 10:46:27 AM
Oh, and boys? If you want to buy me something shiny, make sure it has 2 wheels. :biggrin:
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Hey Wolf... I received an error and cannot reply to your personal message. Can you email me direct?
Eddie
I post a pic of a walker, and who shows up...
:biggrin:
Quote from: Super Dave on February 09, 2007, 12:18:19 PM
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Smite!
...and that brings you to 150! :biggrin:
A: - I was wondering why finance would call you on Friday to send you somewhere. Then I got it.
B: - Weddings are no excuse for missing a race. I've missed weddings/reunions/funerals/birthdays. It's all about priorities... People either understand me or they don't. Such is life.
C: - That must be one big pickle!
D: - Is it better to be in a pickle or have a pickle in you?
Quote from: spyderchick on February 09, 2007, 01:56:49 PM
Smite!
...and that brings you to 150! :biggrin:
Arugh!
Smite for Eddie then...
Quote from: Super Dave on February 09, 2007, 01:30:51 PM
I post a pic of a walker, and who shows up...
:lmao: :lmao: :lmao:
Wow, this sounds coincidentally alot like the thread about the guy wanting to go race when his wife was very pregnant, except this time the very things I was talking about back then (things that were being massively opposed by almost all) are now being agreed upon by most - LMAO - how funny! ::)
And just for kicks I will give my opinion as well, so here goes :preachon:.
This truely is a 'test' type of situation, even if it wasn't originally intended that way by her, but this outcome will definately be a basis for future actions and reactions by her. I don't advocate being mean toward women, what I'm saying is that women in general love when a man stands up for what he wants and doesn't cave in to every little thing she wants (in other words be a MAN and not a manipulatated little puppet). Evolution has a massive influence in this, it wasn't until the last century that women's roles in society changed to what they are now, but deep down inside those thousands and thousands of years of the man being the leader and end decision maker in a relationship strikes to the core of a woman (even if she doesn't want to publicly admit that). The media of the last century has been the absolute #1 destroyer of relationships and attraction between men and women in all of history, what the media brain washes men and women to BELIEVE is that men should do everything possible to please their female companion, the problem here is this basically means not taking a stand for what the guy wants or believes in order to make her happy - which actually backfires. When a male stops being a MAN and starts becoming more and more of a male version of his wife the process often leads to divorce, as I have seen so many times. How many people have gotten married, had kids, then suddenly their getting a divorce because she says HE'S CHANGED - it's because he stopped doing the things that caused her to feel attraction to him and became an assistant.
Very different from guys, women love things that cause them to feel emotions, both good and bad, that roller coaster ride is very appealing to many women. Why do you think women love to complain about things, yet not really want to solve the problem like a guy would? Why do women love getting unexpected suprises like random flowers, dinners, or weekend trips? Because they all create strong emotions that are like a very powerful drug in women, emotional sensations women are addicted to, yet most have never truely identified. A guy who stands his ground creates powerful emotions in a woman, both good and bad, but that cocktail of emotions makes her feel even more attraction to him. How many times have you watched the TV show COPS and seen the typical woman who lives in a trailer park having called for help after just being beat up by her boyfreind who is so often wearing the stereotypical 'wife-beater' T-shirt or tank top? Then when he is about to be taken away she won't press charges, why is that? Because she went from a massive negative emotional state to desiring the positive emotional state she will feel when they 'make-up' after the Police leave - it's sad but true. Predictability in a guy is a great destroyer of attraction for a woman, random acts of affection (that are not too often) spike huge emotions in women. A perfect example of something that creates true attraction is the one that K3 gave about the "BB Diamond", for Laura it wasn't about the Diamond itself, it's about the EMOTIONS attached to the memory of that situation.
I realize I went off on one of my rants again, but this info is the major factor in why the divorce rate is near 2 out of 3 marriages in the US currently (I'm talking about marriages in the last decade, not those from past different mentality generations) - because what people are brainwashed by the media to believe causes attraction is wrong and is actually the primary reason so many marriages are failing. Be a MAN and stand your ground (within reason), don't be predictable in who you are, and randomly do things for your girl that show her how much you truely appreciate her (just make sure not to do it to the point of being predictable). Statistically the marriage she wants you to attend will fail, not trying to be an ass, it's just reality because most likely they are going to follow the road to failure that they have been socially programmed to believe is the correct one. For those of you that think I have no idea what I'm talking about I encourage you to take a look at those around you who have had their marriages last, and those who's have failed - pay attention to which have ass-kissing conformists for husbands and which have husbands that are still an individual. Once people have their eyes opened it becomes very obvious the more you see it.
And to the oblivious - Smite away! :thumb: